At the beginning of my pregnancy is when we really truly stepped into this lifestyle, so yes we were active. There are different levels of safety I feel for the different trimesters of pregnancy.
In the first trimester we felt comfortable doing some light body bondage. This did include some bondage around my belly and but there was no restriction of arms or legs in case I fell. The bondage we did was more like this:
We also did some objectification play. Brandon use me as a foot rest once and a table once. However, we didn't do much of this because I would get tired quickly and it started getting uncomfortable (in a bad way).
We didn't do any play with floggers or whips, but I would say that some LIGHT flogging that is concentrated on either your sit spot or your upper back would be safe. DO NOT do any sort of heavy flogging or whipping because if you somehow hit all the wrong spots you can do severe damage to you and the baby. Also, stay away from the lower back as there are more soft spots and so cannot take as much damage. Use only a light flogger for your back, no belts or canes or other hard thuddy material. Stick to items that sting and don't thud.
We abandoned the shibari bondage in the second trimester and stuck to bed bondage with cuffs. As my belly grew we and my breasts got more tender we didn't want to unknowingly damage anything. Our rope got used as a gag or a makeshift horse bit and reins. We did do some light spanking with a hairbrush, a belt and Brandon's hand. If you do any sort of spanking at this stage I think it is only safe to focus on the bottom of your butt. You absolutely don't want to hit your tailbone as it can hurt your baby to do so, therefore stay away from the lower back and upper buttocks. Some light flogging on your upper back and shoulders might be okay at this stage, but don't do anything you feel unsafe doing.
The third trimester brought less bondage and spanking and the sexual side of our D/s pretty much became non-existent. I would say just be overly careful with whatever you do. You are probably very tired at this stage with low stamina. Lots of positions become uncomfortable or painful. It is much better to be safe than sorry. Luckily pregnancy is not a long term condition. Eventually you will be back to normal and able to do all the things you used to do.
Overall I would recommend being overly cautious. If something feels wrong, don't do it. If you are unsure, don't do it. With anything you do keep it light and easy to either get out of or stop if something feels or goes wrong. As with all other parts of life, pregnancy is the time to take it easy, relax, and just focus on being healthy for your baby and yourself.
Two major things that I believe to really be unsafe would be hardcore striking of any sort anywhere on your body, and anything more than very light (meaning loose) breast and belly bondage.
Being pregnant doesn't mean you have to stop having fun, it just means that you have to be more than extra careful. Each person is different with what they might or might not feel comfortable doing so listen to what your body is telling you. And (I can't say this enough) take it easy!
I hope this was helpful and informative!
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