I came across a list of Profound Submissive Personality Traits on a group at FetLife written by Master Dane. It was as if someone had written their observations about me personally. I have taken the list and made it more personal to me and Brandon, and excluded one or two that I felt weren't completely accurate to me and didn't quite know how to re-word it to make it accurate. Enjoy!
• I am very aware of Brandon's body language, facial expressions, tone of voice and moods.
• I am very very sensitive to criticism, especially when it comes from Brandon.
• I often have a child-like presence
• I am eager to please Brandon and follow his suggestions. But often can feel hurt if his suggestions seem to criticize something I've already done.
• I am aroused and fascinated by his dominant presence.
• I turn to him for help when I have personal issues or dilemmas. Which is as it should be since he is my husband.
• I can become overwhelmed with trying to cope with everyday life, which makes me somewhat of a recluse most of the time. The less I have on my plate the better.
• I am a nurturer. I thoroughly enjoy working in the customer service field when I am working, as well as being the one my friends come to when they are having a rough time, or when they need encouragement or advice.
• I constantly take on guilt that I am told I have no reason for because I am either not the guilty one, or not the only guilty one.
• I am always trying to help others fix their problems.
• I allow others to take advantage of me quite a bit, and Brandon hates it. He is always telling me to stand up for myself.
• I have put up strong emotional barriers because of being either hurt or disappointed too often by the same people.
• Oddly enough I both find it hard to trust people, and at the same time offer trust too easily putting myself in a position of being easily hurt or let down.
• I've always felt sort of like the odd one out, even in my own family.
• I constantly find myself in the position of being everyone's shoulder to cry on. As I am eager to please and help people I sometimes allow it too much and find myself overwhelmed or angry because I can't always be the one they go to.
I find it difficult to resist aggressive behavior, this has often gotten me into situations that turn bad very quickly.
